Comments on: Keep Your People Up

By: Friday Linky Love | Small Hands, Big Ideas

Friday Linky Love | Small Hands, Big Ideas — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 17:21:28 +0000

[...] Not So Literal: Keep Your People Up [...]

By: JR

JR — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:26:21 +0000

@Isao, absolutely man. I think we’ll meet IRL someday too. I really hope so, anyways! Definitely keep me up to date on what’s going on with you and what your plans are. I want to know!

By: JR

JR — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:25:33 +0000

@Jeffrey, you’re talking to Mr. Introvert too, so I TOTALLY feel you on needing alone time. However, I relish that alone time and then move past it asap, because I know being alone with myself all the time isn’t always best… but it is necessary sometimes.

By: JR

JR — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:24:39 +0000

@Susan, when you do things out of the goodness of your heart, it doesn’t matter if they benefit you too.. it’s not selfish at all. Do what comes naturally and I think you’ll wind up being good to yourself and others

Thank you so much for the advice last week too. That meant a lot to me!

By: Isao

Isao — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:22:05 +0000

That’s totally true – I believe writing thoughtful blog letter like this counts as an act of opening (probably even more so than cocktail talks) even though we might be stuck with our laptop. I had many social interaction joys in a starbucks on a rainy day. Another advantage of keeping people up with blog – we can talk about the latest opportunities right ahead

By: Jeffrey Tang

Jeffrey Tang — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:50:41 +0000

I agree, JR, with one caveat – as a natural introvert, sometimes I do need time by myself to recharge. But that need is a lot smaller than I let myself get away with most of the time. And the truth is, we all get a lot of alone time – in the car, in the shower, lying awake in bed – it’s the non-alone time that takes some effort to achieve. Especially for introverts like me

By: Susan Pogorzelski

Susan Pogorzelski — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:45:51 +0000

“Don’t just focus on yourself when times are hard. Look outward, open up, see how you can help other people and I promise you you’ll get back as much as you give out if not more.”

This is something I really need to remember these days — sometimes I get so caught up with what’s going on in my own life, I grow quiet withdraw into myself. That’s my defense mechanism, my way of coping. I tend to forget that I feel at my best when I’m connecting with people, when I’m helping friends. Helping others helps me. It’s perhaps a selfish way of looking at it, but maybe it’s win-win.

Hope everything is going well for you!

By: JR

JR — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:35:24 +0000

Thanks Beth.. I love a challenge too, especially with myself. Bring ‘em on. Thanks for commenting!

By: JR

JR — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:34:57 +0000

Yeah Brian, you never know what kinds of ideas are gonna pop up when you’re poltiking with folks about a problem. Sometimes you both walk away with answers for yourself!

By: JR

JR — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:34:27 +0000

@Grace, I believe in balance too and I totally become and introvert whether I want to or not at times. What I’m saying is that, being an introvert all the time is bad, especially when you’re dealing with some shit. It was a great idea to go visit your girls post breakup. I did something similar with my friends and it really paid off. Same thing with getting laid off… I took a day to feel bad, 4 days to be sick as hell and then I got right back on the social wagon with the people I care about. Totally helping me focus my time too.. although I’m kinda bad at time management when I’m having fun, so I need to allot some time for applications and freelance work, but besides that I love seeing everyone.